If you had sex, it still doesn’t mean you can be salacious in messages from the off. The #Me Too movement has exposed what we’d known all along: men have been abusing their power in work, sexual and romantic situations since time immemorial. No need to self-flagellate, but examine your own behaviour with women. Evaporating into thin air and not contacting someone ever again sounds an easy option, but it’s also a prize dick-move. You don’t have to apologise, or even explain too much, but if you’re not into it and don’t want to see them again, confess.
Nor are you obliged to shell out for your date’s entire social life. Everyone’s got jobs, bills and skincare regimes to keep up with. If you had a good time, a message on the way home from the date to say so is much appreciated – if you’re dating women, sometimes they’re worried about looking needy or obsessed (blame sexism) if they get in touch first, so be a gent.
Negativity is a bad look: you catch flies with honey, not vinegar.
Forget the hi, the hello, the how are you doing – start big, refer to something on their profile and either ask more (not smuttily) or apply it to yourself. You can flirt, and be saucy, but don’t make them uncomfortable.
During one scene, Nick (who else has a major crush on him??
) starts talking to a girl in college who, he realizes, "doesn't know what is." For your date with an older gent: as cool as it is, not everyone needs to know that you were part of an NSYNC fan club (cough cough).