"It depends on how rapidly or slowly things progress." Joan Allen, a relationship expert, finds that baby boomers are far more likely to wait to have sex than younger daters.
"Especially among older people who went through the sexual revolution, with maturity they realize there are emotional consequences for getting involved in a sexual relationship," says Allen, author of Celebrating Single and Getting Love Right: From Stalemate to Soulmate.
Having an honest conversation with yourself about sex is just as important as discussing it with your partner, experts say.While you can't apply a one-size-fits-all response to sexual dating rules regardless of age or experience, professionals who have studied the topic say it is a good idea to develop a set of prudent dating rules - before the big date.By and large, Allen and other relationship experts endorse a cautious approach to the dating rules of sex."My advice is this: wait as long as you can," Allen says.Her rationale for these dating rules may seem obvious, but many people tend to forget in the heat of the moment.If both people are playing by the same dating rules, sex can serve as the gateway to a consensual, committed relationship."I thought there were differences between men and women and how they felt about relationships.In the back of the book is a small-group video discussion guide.We asked leaders to read the book, especially focusing on chapters 1, 6, 9, and 10 (the chapters the videos address).So I downloaded the Kindle version and quickly read it. I appreciate the solid content, and so did our small groups as they watched intently and leaned in to listen.After seeing how incredibly practical the book is, I wanted to get it into the hands of every teenager in our ministry. Stanley has taken some heat for his theology, but I think some people just don’t like his approach. We purchased the four-week small-group DVD set and gave each leader a copy of the book a month in advance.