He just got out of his first serious relationship, which he says required more maturity than he was capable of.‘I know now I need to be more realistic about what I can offer at this point in my life. I can’t get too connected to anybody.’ He says he can’t go back to superficial relationships now that he’s had the real thing, but he can’t have the real thing either.
‘My parents are in the middle of a divorce right now’, one student confides. I’m not confident I know what a healthy, committed relationship is like.
So I assumed their interest in romantic commitment would probably reflect those influences.
That is to say, I thought they wouldn’t be interested in commitment at all.
‘Instead, we pass time with Netflix binges, homework, or superficial relationships.’ It’s living, but not really , she says.
‘What people mean when they say they want a relationship is that they would like to snap their fingers and have the perfect companion who makes them feel secure and happy and who loves them in spite of their flaws.