Shadreck Magaleta from Nchalo in Chikwawa says it is in order for one to have such friends because we all differ in the way we were raised.
“For example, a girl might have been raised in a home that was full of boys and cultivated relationships with a lot boy-friends, which can be a problem to stop even when dating,” argued Magaleta.
As people marry later in life, many are bringing long-term opposite-sex friendships into their marriage relationship.
While the friendships were great during singlehood, in marriage, these relationships may prove problematic.“I think it is OK for married people to have opposite-sex friends,” says Lisa Stewart.
“I think sometimes it is healthy to get input from another female.
“To me, it is absolutely wrong because it makes the other partner insecure. It is also easy to fall into temptations of doing something silly because of the affection that comes from the relationship,” he said.For 20 years, First Things First has provided relationship tools and education to couples and families in our community.When you donate to First Things First, 100% of your tax-deductible donation will help us to continue providing classes and resources to strengthen and empower the relationships that make our community great.Here are a few of them:“If you answered 'yes' to one or more of the questions above, your opposite-sex friendship may be a real threat to the quality of your marriage,” Linaman says.“It may even be in the best interest of your marriage to either significantly limit or actually end your close friendship.”An informal survey shows that both married men and women were uncomfortable with their spouse having close friendships with the opposite sex.Not all opposite-sex friendships are dangerous, but it is important to err on the side of caution.It is helpful to discuss the nature of your friendship on a regular basis with your spouse.The logic is simple; who are we going to call when our relationships fall apart?Who will be there when our partners stab us in the heart?But what happens when these close allies are members of the opposite sex?Do we go about harbouring a guilty conscious for hanging around them? Despite trying to differentiate between friendships and relationships, we often make the mistake of placing the same value to our partners to that of our friends.