Its frustrating, but I know it will hopefully be worth it and I'll find that one in a million guy who is everything I've prayed for.
Speaking of which, thank you to all who are including me in their prayers, I really appreciate that so much!
This doesn't make it right, but it's worth keeping in mind.
The problem here isn't necessarily just ' We're not having sex and I want to have sex' but ' We're not having sex, uh, is this even serious? I bet I'm the only guy she gives this treatment to.' My wife and I were fortunate enough to meet at a little Catholic college that was super orthodox and did not attract people who weren't down with the Church's teachings.
Mark Regnerus, Ph D, of the University of Texas, who wasn’t involved with the study, says it suggests to him that couples who “prioritize sex promptly at the outset of a relationship often find their relationships underdeveloped when it comes to the qualities that make relationships stable and spouses reliable and trustworthy.” He is the author of a forthcoming book titled “Premarital Sex in America,” being published by Oxford University Press.
This was more of me just wanting to rant about the struggles of being abstained in these times at my age--I have met so many guys who otherwise would have been perfect matches, just didn't share the same beliefs in sex as me.
The answer is marriage, and marriage for the Catholic, first and foremost, is not about the consolations of friendship, sex, and childbearing, but about the sacrament for the saving of one's soul. Hijacking this guy's thread because he's the top comment and I'm his girlfriend so there.
That sacramental grace can be there with another baptized person who doesn't share complete commitment to the faith, but it's harder. Find consolation in that love, and offer up your suffering, because I get it, it sucks. :)I know how terrible it feels to feel like you have to put out or a guy won't stay with you.
I was in a relationship for 4 years, and tensions continued to get higher because I wanted to wait, and he didn't believe in waiting.
I'm trying to look in the right places, but I can't find one guy who shares my beliefs. It took me 8 years to find a girl that would wait till marriage.