This doesn't make it right, but it's worth keeping in mind.The problem here isn't necessarily just ' We're not having sex and I want to have sex' but ' We're not having sex, uh, is this even serious? I bet I'm the only guy she gives this treatment to.' My wife and I were fortunate enough to meet at a little Catholic college that was super orthodox and did not attract people who weren't down with the Church's teachings.The study involved 2,035 married participants in an online assessment of marriage called “RELATE.” According to the study, people who waited until marriage: “Most research on the topic is focused on individuals’ experiences and not the timing within a relationship,” study author Dean Busby, Ph D, a professor in Brigham Young University’s School of Family Life, says in a news release.“There’s more to a relationship than sex, but we did find that those who waited longer were happier with the sexual aspects of their relationship.” It may be that couples report greater satisfaction and sexual quality if they’ve waited because the extra time gives them longer to learn about each other and develop the skills necessary for good relationships, Busby says.Have you tried going to Catholic events similar to this?World Youth Day, a Eucharistic conference, retreats, etc.?
Also, as a Catholic, ask yourself what dating is for.The answer is marriage, and marriage for the Catholic, first and foremost, is not about the consolations of friendship, sex, and childbearing, but about the sacrament for the saving of one's soul. Hijacking this guy's thread because he's the top comment and I'm his girlfriend so there.That sacramental grace can be there with another baptized person who doesn't share complete commitment to the faith, but it's harder. Find consolation in that love, and offer up your suffering, because I get it, it sucks. :)I know how terrible it feels to feel like you have to put out or a guy won't stay with you.Mark Regnerus, Ph D, of the University of Texas, who wasn’t involved with the study, says it suggests to him that couples who “prioritize sex promptly at the outset of a relationship often find their relationships underdeveloped when it comes to the qualities that make relationships stable and spouses reliable and trustworthy.” He is the author of a forthcoming book titled “Premarital Sex in America,” being published by Oxford University Press.Busby and colleagues controlled for the influence of religious involvement in their analysis because it often plays a role on when couples choose to initiate sex.I understand that this sucks, but, morality aside, you really don't want to get to a place of engaging in sexual relations because it's what you think you need to do to keep someone around.Sex is meant for intimacy in love (as well as reproduction).About 92% of the respondents had attended college, 32% completed some college, 24% obtained a bachelor’s degree, and the average age was 36.The majority of the couples had sex within two months of starting to date, while 16% delayed intercourse until marriage.There's a bunch of us left and we're waiting to find a girl like you. If all he wants is sex you don't want a relationship with him anyways.Women and men are both a bit screwed up with this nowadays, and a lack of sex feels like rejection, or even some kind of crazy manipulation.