"It moves from the romantic and exciting to an attachment kind of loving, fondness," Foley tells Web MD.
"That gotta have it, gotta have it feeling is gone." Take stock of what you want, she advises.
But AARP studies show that 65% remain sexually active." Put aside the romanticized, silver-screen notions of sex, Foley says.
Schwartz is on the Health Advisory Board at Web MD, and author of several books including Prime: Adventures and Advice about Sex, Love, and the Sensual Years.
"Our parents or grandparents may have lived that way, but we don't anymore." With therapy and the right medication, the irritable anxiousness and depression can disappear.
If your partner won't go to counseling, then you need to go alone, she says.
If your partner is downright snarly about it, then you've got to stand your ground.
"This isn't the kind of thing in this day and age that people live with," she says.