Then there are the chapters everyone wants to read (or possibly wants to avoid): the sex chapters.This section starts off by explaining how we got where we are as a culture and why we’re not any farther gone compared to previous ancient cultures.In chapter two, Andy moves into the premise of the whole book: Become the person your looking for is looking for. Chapters three and four discuss the importance of becoming the right person and how to become the right person.He opens this up with a plea to This is the reason I wish I had taken the One Year No Dating Challenge when I was single. And after you’re married, preparation is impossible. If you get nothing else from the book, you need to get this.The first chapter explains myths we often believe about dating and relationships – the biggest being The Right Person Myth which says “there’s a right person for you, and once you find your right person, everything will be all right (p.22).” Andy unpacks this myth by discussing other false beliefs such as when a relationship feels right it is right, sexual compatibility makes someone the right person, passion will sustain love and make the relationship survive, a baby will make everything better, looking for “right person” will make everything all right, and my friends and family are delusional when they don’t approve of this relationship.My lifestyle was not such that I struggled tremendously in this area. However, I was in bondage to another kind of sin that has brought me regret even years later as a married woman.This is why I call myself a “recovering single.” I made men and marriage idols in my life instead of passionately pursuing my relationship with Jesus.
I wasted a lot of time, I missed many opportunities, and I regret it. And I was determined to “get” no matter what it took.
There are many, maybe even more, emotional and relational consequences to sexual sin that you often don’t attribute to sexual sin, but that’s what caused them.
Finally, in the last chapter, Andy discusses the One Year No Dating Challenge.
But I will say this, anyone who says that their sexual experiences before marriage have no impact on their marriage or helped their marriage is either lying or unaware of their reality.
The consequences of sexual sin do not show up as only sexual consequences.