“In my opinion, if you live in a big, densely populated city, [the upgrade] makes a big difference.
Though convenience is great, I don’t want to limit my dating or hookup prospects to just a couple blocks from my apartment.
Those I talked to who’ve used premium versions of free dating apps didn’t have a singular reason for doing so — their motivations ranged from wanting to expand their location-based potential matches to avoiding the stigma of being discovered by Facebook friends on a kink-friendly app in a conservative town.
But the most popular reason seemed to be the desire to see who’s liked them without having to make the commitment of liking them back.
I had friends reviewing my photos and got the thumbs-up on quality.
I think I’m an attractive person and couldn’t understand the issue — was the app broken or what?
“[It’s] been helpful in seeing who’s left in the dating pool, adjusting my expectations, and deciding what ‘trade-offs’ I’m willing to make,” she explains. “I definitely decided to match or message with some men I would’ve left-swiped on if I hadn’t known they were interested in me.
When it comes to online dating, however, the reasons people choose to upgrade to the payment models are far more varied than with a typical gaming app.“They were fun times.” She also discovered a few surprises about the people in her town.“Lots of guys that I would not think were into kink were on the app,” she adds.“I recently broke up with someone and was out of the loop with swiping,” she explains.“A few days went by after downloading the app and I wasn’t getting any matches. You essentially had two options: Meet a fellow human being in your respective flesh sacks, or pay somebody (or a newspaper) to set you up with one.They offer perks like read receipts, the ability to see who’s already swiped right, and a temporary “boost” that automatically puts you at the top of the pile for a certain amount of time.She says having the freedom to use an app without fear of being exposed introduced her to people she wouldn’t have met if she hadn’t known they were into her first.“I hooked up with two guys separately that were younger than my age range, so I would not have seen them if I had not paid for the app and saw that they liked me first,” she says.In three weeks of using it, she’s gone on one date but said she probably would have swiped right on the person anyway.“Sure, I’m able to reach out to more people because I can connect to them, but the response rate is the same.