There are some sex addicts who don't care whether you get off or not; others who not only want, but need to be your best lover ever. Basically, they flirt with every person who catches their eye.
But either way, they likely always need to be in control. But if it's attached to these other warning signs, you might be with a sex addict. When they go out to a bar, if there is a cute bartender, they chat her up. For some people, this might be normal, even healthy.
If you are hanging out with an active sex addict, it is pretty certain that they are going to lie to you.
The lies are numerous: They are not where they say they are, and they aren’t hanging out with the people they say they are.
There are things about your partner's sex life that you suspect they might be trying to keep secret from you. It is estimated that 12 million people have some form of sex addiction in the U. When a sex addict cheats, or indulges in their fantasies, they are dosing their brain with dopamine and other chemicals that excite, distract, and otherwise cover up the underlying distress or emptiness they suffer from.
The sex addict's impulse is to cover the pain of feeling damaged inside with sex.
Maybe you’ve been hanging out for just a couple of weeks, or maybe it’s a long-term relationship. First things first: sex addiction isn’t just about loving sex.
It may be difficult, but confront them about it — it's the only way to begin to stop the cycle.You may assume, after all you've been through, that they won't be receptive to talking, but you have some influence here.Sure, if you come at them saying "You f*cking asshole, I know you cheated on me," you won't get an honest response.You've never felt closer to your partner; you fall into a deep sleep with a smile on your face.A half hour later, you wake up, and they're masturbating next to you in bed.When they are on the computer, they minimize the screen if you come in the room to talk.They always log out of their email and Facebook, even if they just go away from their computer for a couple of minutes.I finally got to a point where because of my actions, I had nothing left.I spent seven weeks in rehab getting help for sex addiction, and this list is a compilation of everything I’ve learned about sex addiction from my own experience and treatment, and heard from many other men in groups I’ve been part of. You never know: They may be relieved to have it out in the open.Again, they might just be cheating, or hiding something else, but if they are lying all the time, you may be dealing with a sex addict.You just had some of the most awesome sex of your life.