A couple of months ago, I was sitting at a bar minding my own business when the woman next to me did something strange.Surrounded by potential partners, she pulled out her phone, hid it coyly beneath the counter, and opened the online dating app Tinder.If people weren’t going to go to the laundromat to wash their clothes together, how would we spend time together?That was something people were legitimately concerned about.I don’t think that that theory, even if it’s true for something like jam, applies to dating.I actually don’t see in my data any negative repercussions for people who meet partners online.This environment, mind you, is just like the one we see in the offline world.
In a 2012 paper, I wrote about how among heterosexuals, the people who are most likely to use online dating are the middle-aged folks, because they’re the ones in the thinnest dating market.
They are important today — roughly one of every four straight couples now meet on the Internet.
(For gay couples, it's more like two out of every three).
I think these things are definitely characteristic of modern romance.
The worry about online dating comes from theories about how too much choice might be bad for you.