Initiating the first out-of-gym hang was scary, but I could tell we were all edging around the idea.
Once we eventually initiated plans, it was easy after that. Since we see each other at the gym five or six days a week, it’s really easy to keep in touch.
What efforts did you put in to help the friendship take root? We both realized that we had potential to have a lasting and meaningful friendship through our faith, where we were at in our lives, and how complementary our personalities were.
We made effort to see each other right off the bat.
A client introduced me to this girl via email as she thought we would get along.
Turns out she grew up around the corner from me and our lives have followed very similar paths.
My mother is almost 70 and made some of her closest friends in the last 10 years, so I know it can happen at all stages of life.
Also, I think it’s important to remember that it’s healthy and sharpening to be friends with people who are different from you and it’s important not to expect them to be like you, but instead celebrate them for being who they were created to be.Also, it’s an automatic friend “group” as opposed to just one friend. What did this experience teach you about making friends as an adult?It’s definitely a strange breed of relationship, and feels very different from high school/college/law school friends.But it also can, at times, be more fulfilling, because these people know more about my life as it is NOW, versus what my life was five or 10 years ago.I think it’s important to have both old and new friends!According to lore from under the sea, dolphins are smart as hell and very, very social while turtles prefer to navigate the water in solitude, slowly and steadily. The recognition of its rareness, the pursuit of something more. In the spirit of investigating what actually works (no, really!It’s a different mentality, a philosophical fork, but for whatever reason, when the relationship is stricken (my ear can attest! ) when it comes to making, and keeping, friends as an adult, I asked the Man Repeller community (you? ) made their most recent, genuine adult friends and what takeaways were gleaned to inform subsequent friendship endeavors.You know what they say — the best stuff bubbles up in the most unlikely of places.Let your ear remind you of that the next time you’re at a pottery class.What did this experience teach you about making friends as an adult?Don’t be embarrassed about seeming “desperate” when trying to establish a relationship with someone new.