They don't want that power and you need to learn it's what's best for you too.So yeah none of this is straightforward but that's because friendships are not straightforward. I know there can be great friendships in store for you.So far that, not to sound too pessimistic, it's toxic in many ways.But anyway we shouldn't dwell on that broadscale problem because it's very unlikely society can be changed in our lifetimes.
If you have your gab session at a park, you don't even have to clean your house or make (buy) snacks.
And if you're child-less, but still have a furry child (as in a cat or dog or hamster, of course — let's not get weird), try heading to a dog park.
But it still is important to admit this problem, because it is true. But yeah with the way society is structured and the emphasis on individualism it is monumentally difficult to make friends as an adult. Once you've left school, where everyone has to serve their time and are banded together in a common experience for years on end, you are pretty much on your own and the conditions for forming meaningful friends are few and far between unless of course you make it your mission to find those conditions for yourself. There is no order and there is no plan ahead of you unless you're lucky enough to have healthy role models to follow.
You're now completely responsible for your fate and no one knows what they should do. One good thing you could try to counteract this problem is to not focus on making friends and stop trying to achieve that specific goal.